My husband had his stroke on February 18 3 yrs ago. Presently he still can't communicate due to aphasia/apraxia issues. Has had 3 yrs of therapy for speech pt & ot. Now on Medicare had to stop…Continue
Do you ever wonder what might make you happy? When was the last time you felt happy, loved or supported? I realize I am whining and feeling so "poor me" at the moment. I'll admit it doesn't happen…Continue
My mother had a embolic stroke in her brainstem this past June. She is recovering remarkably but now that she is home from rehab, the VNA that comes to her house doesnt offer speech therapy. Speech…Continue
Been three years since husbands stroke. Cognition has improved somewhat, but physically refuses to do anything but sit in his chair. Prefers to have meals on a tray, needs help dressing, is…Continue
My mother had an aortic dissection 2 years ago (March, 2013 when she was 62). She collapsed on a ski slope. She had an emergency valve replacement that was successful. A year and a half later, she had her descending Aorta repaired more extensively with a two part surgery that involved a second open heart surgery, a gore-tex lining to her aorta, and a few months with a wound vac. 2 months after the end of that surgery, she got shining reviews from her surgeon and was ready to live life…Continue
1) The wrong thing to say is anything that implies that you don't understand how completely my world was turned upside down by my mother dying.
Don't ask my professional and geographical plans, at least not to start a conversation. These are hard questions, even when I'm not dealing with grief; Even when my world has not just been turned upside down. You'll probably know what comes next soon after I know what comes next.
2) The wrong thing is anything that implies that I…Continue
I think the idea that there are steps to grieving or that there is a point when you get over the grief is totally wrong. However, as you said, it is correct is that we are not prepared for it. I think our society is a bit in denial of death. And though the loss of a loved one is one of the most natural processes, more natural than even birth, I would argue, we have this perception of it as an anomaly. I think we can change this by talking about death more over the course of our whole…Continue
My mom died in March of this year (25th) of a brain aneurism a week before her 65th birthday. This was exactly 2 years after an aortic dissection, but was quite sudden and unexpected because a week later the heart surgeon had told her that she was, as far as he was concerned "cured".
She leaves a huge hole in many people lives, and we are all trying to figure out how to live without her. Relationships are changing. This is especially hard for my dad as they…